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[...] stood in a grocery line with someone who wanted to make it completely apparent to everyone else how irritated they were? Ever had to deal with a driver and their road rage? Ever seen hurtful words exchanged? [...]

By: Flying LlamaFish

Flying LlamaFish — Thu, 03 Jul 2008 06:40:45 +0000

You speak the truth, brother.

By: Bamboo Forest

Bamboo Forest — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 20:41:03 +0000

@ Lance: Continually yelling as a coach will certainly not bring out the best in his or her athletes. I agree.

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 14:42:07 +0000

This is so true – trying to get better performance by yelling or belittling rarely works. I have seen this firsthand this year with my oldest son’s baseball team. Two of the coaches continually yell at the players. They are both good coaches in the techniques they teach, but their method of coaching has caused several players to request a different team, and others on the team to write letters to the recreation board. This is a good reminder for all of us in our dealings with other people, to show respect and encouragement. Nice article!

By: Bamboo Forest

Bamboo Forest — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 20:12:39 +0000

@ technokid88: Yeah, those 2 on 2 games were dynamite.

@ Barbara Swafford: Thank you.

@ Ritergal: That sounds like an interesting model.

By: Ritergal

Ritergal — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 11:14:19 +0000

Wow, I read this just after a journal entry about how my father’s tendency to limit his interaction with me to comments on how I could improve my appearance or general self led me to feel I always fell short and was somehow inadequate. He did this with the best of intentions, but that’s not what it sounded like at the time. I’m so grateful that over the last many years we have developed a loving and supportive relationship, but that early start in life — you don’t even have to yell. Simply withholding sincere appreciation is almost as bad.

My prescription: Always follow the Toastmaster model for evaluation. Give two points of strength for every suggestion for improvement.

By: Barbara Swafford

Barbara Swafford — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 08:14:06 +0000

Hi Bamboo,

I was taught, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all”. As children we weren’t yelled at and to this day, I cringe if someone raises their voice, especially if it’s directed toward a child.

Praise goes a lot further.

With that being said, this was a superb post.

By: Robert A. Henru

Robert A. Henru — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 06:02:44 +0000

You’re welcome. I do really mean it!

By: technokid88

technokid88 — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 05:31:04 +0000

Yeah it sucks when they keep yelling to you, we used to be pretty good back in Tampa… Especially the 2on2 games.

By: Bamboo Forest

Bamboo Forest — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 04:25:24 +0000

@ Marelisa: I consider it a must read. That’s an interesting concept, regarding they remember how you made them feel and not what you said.

@ Robert A. Henru: Thank you for the tremendous compliment. I’m glad you find value in what I have to say.

@ Chris: It is sorta strange, true. But it’s easy to yell, because yelling/temperment is often natural. Developing oneself to not yell, that’s not natural. Instead, it takes a lot of hard work.

I guess it would depend on the nature of the yelling when coaching. Sports tend to make us very enthusiastic.

@ Sara: I can see how that could happen, as a response.